The Ex Factor

So I have been back in Illinois now for almost 2 months and upon arrival was so excited to see my family, my friends, have my old job, and have that sense of all around knowing my surroundings. I had Jacob come back with me as well so nothing could have gone wrong...Apparently though things can change more than you expect in just 4 short months.

I came back and some things were the same such as everyone at Schoolyard is still amazingly fun to go out with and accepting of me coming back. My family was still there for me without judgement of my shortcomings in Florida, my boyfriend came home with me which made everything a lot easier. But somethings had changed. My close friends in the city had brought someone else into their group, someone that I would never have expected, my ex. His precense was a shock to me when I saw him getting chummy with them through facebook, I did not realize how close he had become with MY friends unti I came back home and realized he was around a hell of a lot more than I would like. I can not make my friends choose one over the other because that would be unfair to do, but deep down it really does get to me. I've started to come to terms with him being around them a lot and going out with them and having all the inside jokes that I once had,it's just been hard. Luckily I have had other friends who have helped make this transition easier and give me some damn good advice.

I will not say anything to degrade my ex or his choices, I am better than that and will hold my head up with class. I feel that the truth comes out of people when you least expect it and you really begin to see people for what they really are and their hidden intentions. I love my friends and wish that i could rewind the clock 4 months and go back to how it use to be! But we live, we grow, we learn, and you realize what is important to you.

In the meantime I have also focused on my business with Samantha, event planning and PR as of a couple weeks ago. We have put our time and energy into learing what will work and how to build our clientel. Another ex has been brought into my life through this situation. His band contacted us to do PR for them and help with bookings. I was very surprised that they sought me out to help their band grow. I was friends with them before their band began playing shows and I am happy that they have found success. So not all exs returning to your life are a bad thing apparently!

On the other side of this is my current boyfriend. He has been fantastic in supporting me through everything I have done. As much as he hates me being in business with my ex I think he understands this is strictly to help my company grow. He sees how hurt I am by certain actions and is always there to make me feel better. It can put great strain on a reltionship to have friends that are exs, I have a lot of friends that I dated at one point because they are good people. At one point I was friends with them and I have been trying to explain that although they are in my life that does not push him out any less. So the ex factor can be good and bad all at the same time. So ladies if you have exes in your life and whether you want them to disappear or are still friends with them you understand the ex factor!!